Being a good husband isn’t just about grand gestures or occasional displays of affection, it’s about consistent actions that show your love and respect for your wife. Sometimes, you might overlook the things you do that make you a great husband. So, here are 18 signs you’re a better husband than you give yourself credit for.
1. You listen to, and remember, what she says
You’re great at active listening—you hear her without interrupting and you come up with thoughtful questions to follow up with (that’s hard to find!). Whether it’s her favorite book, biggest pet peeves, or the fact that she’s meeting her friend for drinks on Thursday, you pay attention to the details not only because you love her, but because you value what she has to say.
2. You intentionally carve out time for her
It’s very easy to get caught up in the daily grind. But despite life’s busy schedule, you know what’s important: spending quality time with your wife. You not only put your own things aside so you can be there for her, but you also plan date nights so she knows how important she is to you. Aww.
3. Her opinion is the first one you ask for
This sounds like an obvious thing, but not every relationship is built on the foundation of respect that yours is. Whether it’s a major life decision like moving jobs or home or a simple choice like what to wear to your high school reunion, you value your wife’s input and always ask for her POV before making a final call.
4. You view the two of you as a team
In your eyes, a marriage should be made up of two people who tackle challenges together, celebrate wins together, and support each other through thick and thin. You’ve mastered this art and see you and your wife as a united front. Not only does this help with the small everyday stuff, but it also makes you more connected to each other. A win-win.
5. You’re always working to make her fall in love with you
You know that falling in love isn’t a one-time thing and marriage doesn’t mark the end of your love journey. You understand that love is quite literally a verb and you actively pursue your wife to keep the spark alive. Who says that romance is dead? Not you.
6. You never forget important dates
You’ve never missed a birthday or anniversary. Do you know how big that is? Sure, to you it may seem like a given, but lots of marriages fall apart due to one spouse forgetting the important things. Not you, though—you value the significance of these important moments and make a concerted effort to celebrate them.
7. You contribute 50/50 to chores
If there’s one thing you know, it’s that sharing household chores is a super important thing when it comes to a successful marriage. You take that seriously and make sure that you’re doing your fair share around the house. Gender norms, be damned—you cook, clean, do the laundry, and more, and we’re willing to bet your wife loves you all the more for it.
8. You never forget to thank her
It doesn’t matter how small or big the gesture is, you always make sure that your wife knows how much you appreciate her. Whether it’s a heartfelt “thank you” for her delicious home-cooked meals or a simple acknowledgment of her presence—it’s a direct reflection of your understanding of the effort, love, and care she puts into your relationship every day.
9. There’s nothing she could do that would make you not love her
Your love for your wife is unconditional—you accept her for who she is, flaws and all, and you love her not despite them but because of them. You understand that love goes way beyond imperfections and hard times and no matter what happens, you promise to be there.
10. You always want to try new things with her
You’re not the type to just sit at home and go through the same monotonous routine every night. You like trying new things with the love of your life! That can look like a lot of things—exploring a new hobby, traveling to a fun destination, or trying a new cuisine. Whatever it is, you’re always thinking about the new experiences you can share and memories you can make with your wife.
11. You spend a healthy amount of time apart
Every healthy marriage involves space. You love spending time with her more than anything, but you also understand the importance of having individual interests. That’s why you make it a point to encourage your wife to pursue her passions, support her in doing so, and then do the same for yourself.
12. You always look for ways to make her laugh
One of your favorite things in this life is watching your wife light up and laugh. That’s why you go out of your way to get a giggle out of her. Whether it’s finding the humor in everyday moments or not taking yourself too seriously if it means cheering her up? You’re more than in.
13. She’s always on your mind
Regardless of what you’re going through—whether that’s work stuff, friend stuff, or regular life stuff—she is always present in your mind. You find yourself thinking about her smile, the hilarious thing she said at dinner, or past fun moments you’ve shared. If that doesn’t make you a great husband, we don’t know what does.
14. You’re her biggest cheerleader
You wholeheartedly believe that your wife can do anything she wants to do—that’s why you support her dreams and aspirations without question. You celebrate her during her successes and encourage and comfort her during setbacks. She’s lucky to have you.
15. You see her (and treat her) as an equal
In your eyes, your wife isn’t just your wife—she’s your equal. You respect her more than anyone else in this world and you have no problem putting your ego aside to make sure she knows that. You value her contributions, love her no matter what, and you work every day to show it.
16. You know how she likes to be communicated with
You’ve taken the time to understand something that a lot of partners don’t: how your spouse likes to communicate. Seems simple, but communication can often be a point of contention in relationships. Not yours though, through your words, actions, and gestures, you make sure that the messages you’re sending are tailored to her communication needs.
17. You go out of your way to do the little things for her
You realize that it’s not just the big things that matter, it’s the little things, too. Whether it’s leaving her a note before she goes to work or surprising her with her favorite meal when she gets home, you find joy in making her feel special. Kudos.
18. You’re patient when she’s having a hard day
The reality is that when your partner is having a tough day, they may tend to take it out on you. Instead of getting defensive and saying something you don’t mean, you’re patient. You know that life is hard and you have no problem being her sounding board when she needs it most.
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