It’s sad that you can dream of a life with someone, only to get thrown back to reality when you realize the relationship’s making you super negative. If that sounds like you, then your relationship might be bringing out the worst in you. Here are 15 signs to look out for.
1. You Feel Tired All The Time.
Although you lead a busy life, it’s a red flag if you’re constantly fatigued and lack the energy to get through your day. Your relationship could be making you feel this way, such as if your partner is highly demanding or dumping drama on your doorstep.
2. Your Friends Say You’re Not Yourself.
While you might think you’re happy in your relationship, your friends might tell you otherwise by stating that you’ve changed. Maybe relationship stress is bringing you down or you’re feeling the pressure to change so you’re losing who you really are.
3. You Never Do Things You Enjoy.
Perhaps you used to prioritize looking after yourself and doing things that made you happy, but since being in a relationship? You’re putting yourself last. This is taxing and stressful, it’s unhealthy if you don’t have your own life when dating someone.
4. You Lie To Your Loved Ones.
Maybe you catch yourself lying to friends and family members to pretend everything’s fine in your relationship when in reality, your partner isn’t making you happy. You might make excuses for their bad behavior or brush stuff under the rug. This is especially common if you’re feeling the pressure to have a happy, satisfying relationship.
5. You’re Trying Too Hard To Fix Things.
It’s easy to think that if your partner could just change a few things about themselves, you’d be happy and your relationship would be great. But it’s not that simple! Your partner’s not a renovation project. Wasting your time trying to fix them is always going to backfire on you, causing you more problems.
6. You’re Snappy With Others.
You can tell if you’re in a relationship that’s bringing out the worst in you by checking your emotional landscape. If you’re feeling angrier or more frustrated than usual, it could be that your relationship is draining you.
7. Your Work Is Suffering.
How’s your work performance been since you got into your current relationship? If you’re prioritizing your relationship so much that you’re not getting much done at work, it’s a bad sign your relationship is trashing your career. Similarly, if the relationship is toxic, it could be affecting your energy levels and concentration.
8. You’re A Walking Guilt Trip.
If your partner’s always blaming you for the issues in your relationship, you could be taking on all that stress and guilt that isn’t yours to carry. This is destructive to your self-worth and it zaps your confidence. Soon, it’ll start affecting other areas of your life.
9. You’re Fighting With Your Friends A Lot.
When your friends can see that you’re not happy, they might ask you questions about your relationship or try to understand why you’re not walking away from your partner who’s clearly bringing you down. If you’re not ready to hear what they have to say, this could make you defensive, causing you to argue with your friends who just want the best for you.
10. You’re Spending More Money.
Sometimes, bad relationships can cause you to look for an escape. While this can be drinking or doing drugs, it could also be swiping your credit card on clothing or home decor items. You might shop up a storm to numb yourself for a while so you don’t have to feel so much stress.
11. You’re Spending More Time At Work.
If being around your partner is causing you stress, you might want to spend as much time away from them as possible. So, you might suddenly have a “busy” schedule at work, which causes you to pull all-nighters in the office.
12. You Don’t Want To Bring Your Partner Around Your Loved Ones.
If you’re dealing with a partner who’s always fighting with you, you might want to avoid being in the same room as your partner and loved ones. It’s just too stressful to put your relationship on display for family or friends who’ll quickly sniff out all your relationship issues.
13. You’re Withdrawing From Social Gatherings.
Another way in which you might avoid your loved ones is by spending many weekends at home alone instead of going out with them. Perhaps you’re isolating yourself because you don’t even have the energy to laugh and have fun.
14. You’re A Negative Nellie.
Linked to the previous point, you might be feeling like you’re living under storm clouds. If your relationship is toxic and bringing you down, it’s no wonder that you’re negative about work, your dreams, and even yourself.
15. You’re Feeling Lost.
If your partner is bringing chaos into your life or you’ve neglected yourself in the relationship, you could be feeling like you don’t know who you are anymore. Maybe you can’t remember the last time you focused on your goals or did something fun, and it’s sad. Don’t let a bad relationship bring you down! You deserve so much more.
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