Meeting new people can be nerve-wracking. It’s not always easy to make a good impression and feel confident that they’re going to want to see you again. Although you shouldn’t put too much pressure on yourself to be liked, it does help to bear some important tips in mind. Here are 15 ways to help you boost your appeal.
1. Be curious about other people.
When you get into a conversation with someone new, don’t only speak about yourself and your amazing achievements—that gets boring really quickly. Instead, take a pause, and ask them some questions! Let people share their stories and try to be genuinely interested in them.
2. Be weird!
Instead of trying to look or dress like everyone else, dare to be your weirdest, most wonderful self! The thing is, everyone’s weird and that’s what makes us interesting in our own ways. Don’t try to censor yourself—let people love you for who you really are.
3. Smile a bit.
You don’t have to slap a fake smile on your face—that’ll backfire. But, you should show that you’re way more warm and approachable by having a genuine smile on your face. When someone approaches you at a party, make sure you smile so that you can give them the silent go-ahead to come say hi.
4. Be empathetic.
Acknowledging and understanding other people’s feelings is an important way to make people feel comfortable and special in your presence. They’ll be drawn to you and want to spend more time in your company.
5. Be articulate.
If you ramble on during conversations, you might become a bit of a walking borefest. Try to practice summing up stories and focusing on the most important highlights so you keep people interested instead of talking their ears off.
6. Match your words and body language.
If your body language clashes with what you’re saying, it’s going to give people mixed messages and make your energy seem awkward. So, for example, if your words are warm, your body language should match it—you should stand with your arms uncrossed and wear a smile on your face.
7. Speak positively.
Avoid using words like “don’t” and “can’t” in your speech because they make you seem negative. And, be careful about how you describe yourself, as you don’t want to seem like you’re always putting yourself down. No one wants to be around a Negative Nellie!
8. Maintain a balanced conversation.
You don’t want to dominate the conversation with someone you’ve just met, as it makes you seem like you’re desperate for attention. Pay attention to how much you’re speaking so you ensure you’re both getting enough of the spotlight. And, go with the flow instead of drilling them with too many questions.
9. Let yourself relax.
It’s not always easy to feel confident in who you are, but if you try too hard to get people’s attention, this will backfire. It’s also exhausting! Instead of being seen as appealing, you’ll be viewed as arrogant or annoying, so chill a bit and let things happen naturally.
10. Uplift others.
You should never resort to putting others down, even if you promise them you’re “just kidding.” It’s much more powerful to encourage and uplift people! Be warm and supportive, and people will want to be around you.
11. Fake your confidence.
If you’re not feeling confident when meeting new people, don’t be scared to fake it a little until your anxiety leaves the party. Walk tall, smile, and don’t slouch over your phone. These tips will ensure you still make a good impression.
12. Give people your undivided attention.
One of the most appealing things you can do when meeting someone new is to be present. Put your phone away and try not to look around too much. Make eye contact and show them you’re tuned in like they’re the most interesting Netflix show.
13. Make some jokes.
While you don’t want to go overboard with telling jokes because it’s a sign you’re trying too hard, be funny and witty. Make some interesting and humorous observations. People love to laugh and you’ll probably feel a little more comfortable and relaxed after a good belly laugh. A win-win.
14. Express your opinions.
You might think you have to agree with what others say to fit in, but that’s boring and doesn’t do any favors when it comes to your individuality. Be strong enough to share unique opinions and thoughts. It makes for a more interesting conversation.
15. Listen more than you talk.
When you listen to people instead of focusing on the sound of your own voice, and your voice only, you’re much more memorable. In this case, your silence and attention speak louder than words ever could. Plus, everyone loves a good listener because it makes them feel like they’re saying something of value.
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