Phoebe Mertens

Phoebe Mertens is a writer, speaker, and strategist who has helped dozens of female-founded and led companies reach success in areas such a finance, tech, science, and fashion. Her keen eye for detail and her innovative approach to modern womanhood makes her one of the most sought-out in her industry, and there's nothing she loves more than to see these companies shine. With an MBA from NYU's Stern School of Business and features in Forbes and Fast Company she Phoebe has proven she knows her stuff. While she doesn't use social media, she does have a private Instagram just to look at pictures of cats.

15 Reasons People Who Grew up in Dysfunctional Families End up in Dysfunctional Relationships

If you grew up watching adults model dysfunction as love, you might find yourself unconsciously recreating those same patterns in your own relationships. It’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility to understand why. Here’s what’s really happening when your childhood trauma keeps showing up in your love life. 1. You Mistake Intensity for…

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13 Surprising Silver Linings of Divorce That People Don’t Talk About

Divorce is often painted as one of life’s biggest failures. But while it’s undeniably difficult, divorce can also bring about unexpected benefits that people rarely talk about. Behind the heartbreak, the paperwork, and the endless “what’s happening?” questions, there are hidden silver linings that make the journey worthwhile. Here’s what can come from an otherwise…

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16 Signs Your Adult Children May Be Taking Advantage of You

It’s not about the occasional request for help or temporary support—it’s about the pattern of behavior that slowly transforms parental generosity into exploitation. Here’s how to recognize when supporting your adult children has crossed the line into enabling dependency. 1. Your Retirement Plans Are Becoming Dreams When you look at your retirement accounts, the numbers…

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14 Ways a Lonely Childhood Shapes Who You Are as an Adult

When your earliest lessons about life came from keeping yourself company, it leaves fingerprints on every aspect of your adult personality. Here’s how those solitary hours of childhood continue to echo through your adult life—whether you recognize it or not. 1. You’re an Emotional Caretaker You’ve become exceptionally good at managing other people’s emotions because…

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15 Red Flags You’re in a Rollercoaster Relationship with a Manipulator

That nagging feeling in your gut isn’t just relationship anxiety—it’s your intuition sending you signals about something worse. Let’s talk about those subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that you’re not just dealing with normal relationship ups and downs, but rather a carefully orchestrated emotional ride. 1. Love Bombing Is Their Go-To One day you’re being showered…

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14 Signs You and Your Partner are Total Opposites and Don’t Have What it Takes for the Long Haul

Let’s get real about compatibility beyond the whole “opposites attract” fairytale. While differences can create a spark, some fundamental oppositions signal a relationship that’s more about temporary excitement than lasting connection. Here are the deep-rooted incompatibilities that go beyond simple personality quirks. 1. You Have Different Approaches to the Future You live your life like…

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