Were you the kid who always asked “Why?” The one who wasn’t afraid to color outside the lines, speak up when something felt wrong, or just forge your own path? That youthful rebelliousness might seem like a distant memory, but it shapes who you are in profound ways. If you were never content to simply follow the crowd, chances are you carry those same independent, questioning traits into your adult life.
1. You embrace change.
Years of dodging curfews, adventuring around the globe, and occasionally bending the truth have made you incredibly adaptable. You’re always up for a challenge and find stagnation stifling. Those experiences honed your ability to think on your feet and see the big picture, even when plans go awry.
2. You use your mistakes as learning opportunities.
Looking back, you wouldn’t trade your rebellious youth for anything. Sure, you made mistakes along the way – but those missteps ultimately taught you valuable lessons and led to unforgettable experiences. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, you appreciate how those “failures” shaped who you are and opened up unexpected paths. These days, you know how to squeeze the lessons from your missteps.
3. You know how to talk to authority figures.
You don’t hate authority figures as much as you did when it felt like they were always saying “no” or acting as barriers to doing cool things. However, you don’t automatically drink the Kool-Aid, either. You can know when to trust them and know when to take them with a pinch of salt.
4. You have a love-hate relationship with your family.
Given that you were a bit of a wild child who caused your fair share of trouble growing up, maintaining a strong relationship with your family these days can be hard. Your siblings might still resent you for the way you disrupted their childhood, and your parents probably still see you as the trouble-making teen you used to be. Once you can all see that everyone is maturing and growing up, you’ll rebuild those ties properly. In the meantime, it can be a struggle.
5. You never compare yourself to anyone else.
Part of why you acted out when you were younger was because you were constantly comparing yourself to other people and didn’t feel supported by the systems around you. That’s why you challenged your parents and rebelled at school. Nowadays, you know how to find peace with yourself outside of all these systems. You’re comfortable in your own skin finally, and it makes a world of difference.
6. You know yourself 100%.
Self-knowledge only comes with having made mistakes. That means that if you have a history of acting out when you were younger, you will have loads of unique life experiences and problem-solving skills from all the scraps you had to get yourself out of. You learned to fend for yourself and trust in what you stood for. It’s what people admire most about you now.
7. You still hate planning and logistics.
While you’re great at managing change, planning still stresses you out. Getting frustrated by details when you were younger was what caused you to lash out and give up completely on certain subjects at school. That hasn’t changed despite all the time that’s passed.
8. You know how to talk about your feelings.
Rather than rebelling against things that frustrate you like you did when you were younger, you now know how to articulate your feelings and ask for support. It means you don’t need to resort to rebellious behavior and can have a healthy relationship with conflict.
9. You’re great at setting boundaries.
When you need time and space to recharge your battery or even just do a bit of self-reflection, you’re a superstar at advocating for yourself. As a person who rebelled a lot as a kid, you have lots of experience of not knowing how to do that with your parents or at school, and it resulted in temper tantrums, arguments, and a long list of detention offenses. Now, you know how to protect your space when you need to.
10. You keep your circle small.
Even back then, you weren’t a super popular person because lots of people were put off by your antics. To this day, trust remains an important aspect of any relationship. For you, it’s quality over quantity because you don’t want to feel judged for your unusual background.
11. You have a very chill, laid-back lifestyle.
When you first started rebelling against your parents and relying on yourself rather than them for help, it caused you to mature much faster than you should have and deal with hard issues alone. As a result, you like to embrace the easy-breezy lifestyle as an adult.
12. You struggle with fight-or-flight responses.
While you pride yourself in your calm disposition now, you still have to fight against your impulse to run away when things get hard. In the past, you would run away or lash out when met with criticism. Now, you’re on a journey to overcoming all of those hang-ups.
13. You still like to take risks.
Risk-taking isn’t something that magically left your repertoire just because you turned a certain age. You still love to keep people on their feet, and it’s important to you that people still see you that way. Getting older doesn’t mean getting soft — you’re still willing to go out on some pretty wild limbs just for the excitement of it.
14. Your parenting style is the opposite of your parents’…
It’s not that you dislike your parents, but you recognize that you want to make different decisions with your kids than they did with you. When you had your first child, it brought up your childhood of rebellion, and you found ways of trying to support them in a way that you never felt. Your goal is to be a parent that your child would never feel awkward about introducing to a partner or a friend like you did.
15. … But you have a newfound respect for your parents.
When you have a glass of wine and reflect on your parents’ choices during your childhood, you still have a lot of thoughts. However, with hindsight, your reflections aren’t as negative as they used to be, particularly having a kid of your own. You understand the unique challenge of being a parent, but also the responsibility to meet your child where they are.
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