When a classy person comes into your life, it’s like basking in the first rays of sunshine after a thunderstorm. You can embody their vibe by learning a few things classy people never complain about. You’ll gain a fresh perspective on life and potentially even deal with its ups and downs more effortlessly.
1. They don’t sweat life’s tiny inconveniences.
It’s so easy to grumble about things like an unstable internet connection or getting a few spam calls from telemarketers. The inconveniences are annoying, but they don’t bother classy people. They actively practice letting these things roll off their shoulders by focusing on what matters to them.
2. They view setbacks as opportunities.
Life will always throw a few curveballs that set you back in pursuing your goals. If you have a classy perspective on life, you’ll view them as temporary frustrations that could open new doors. Sophisticated people know setbacks can even supercharge a person’s career if they view the unexpected turn of events as opportunities to try new things.
3. They celebrate another person’s success.
People with big egos or fragile self-esteem feel threatened when they watch someone else succeed. If you’re classy, you celebrate that person’s achievement. You’ll know that everyone rises together. Feeling like you’re competing with every person on the planet is only a great way to guarantee your unhappiness.
4. They don’t complain about not having everything they want.
There will always be things you want to buy. Companies will always manufacture new clothes, technology and other goods to boost their revenue. Sophisticated people don’t feel pressured to get everything they want right away. They find happiness in other things too, like interpersonal connections and quiet moments.
5. They never dump work complaints into a conversation.
People spend a significant amount of their time at work each week. It’s natural that you’ll have complaints about your work life, but the classy people you admire don’t let those things build up.
Instead of grumbling about something like their long commute, they use the time to better themselves with educational podcasts, meditation playlists or phone calls with loved ones. If you let problems slide off your shoulders, by reframing your perspective, you’ll feel greater happiness without waiting for things to change.
6. They don’t care about their social class.
It’s so easy to get caught up in your social class. If you’ve connected wealth or popularity with your self-worth, you might complain about your social standing more than others. Classy people view everyone as equals and source their self-worth from things that matter, like the positivity they put into the world.
7. They embrace the aging process.
Griping about things you can’t control is never classy. The brands making anti-aging products want you to think your body’s natural wrinkles and changes are problems to solve. A more sophisticated mindset would accept your body’s aging process instead of complaining about something that happens to the people lucky enough to live long lives.
8. They don’t dwell on miscommunication.
When things go wrong because someone misspoke or another person didn’t communicate as effectively, refined people don’t dwell on what caused the situation. They might reflect on how miscommunication often relates to a person’s attachment style or how their background shaped their interpersonal skills. This perspective may keep you from getting anxious or angry when miscommunication inevitably happens.
9. They rarely nitpick their appearance.
Your appearance doesn’t matter as much as how you treat people. When someone has a classy mentality, they don’t worry so much about how their hair looks or if their makeup is perfect. They know the best people will see them for who they are, rather than value them based on what they look like.
10. They always try to understand poor customer service experiences.
Even the best servers occasionally mess up a customer’s order. A sophisticated person doesn’t complain when mistakes happen. If the mistake didn’t put them in harm’s way, they brush it off.
11. They see change as a positive thing.
Sudden and expected change can feel equally debilitating. It’s never easy to accept when your stability or lifestyle can’t stay the same, but a classier mindset will try viewing it as a positive opportunity. After all, you can’t grow if you never try new things.
12. They graciously accept compliments.
When someone compliments you, you might feel slightly uncomfortable and wave it off. Although you might not mean it this way, it’s a form of complaining. Sophisticated people graciously accept praise, unless it’s a compliment that stereotypes them or is clearly passive-aggressive. Being classy doesn’t mean accepting mistreatment.
13. They don’t let the weather bother them.
No one can control the weather, so why complain about it? Negative comments about the rain, heat or mugginess only bring down everyone’s mood. If you’re trying to be classy, you can create similar small talk with thoughtful ice-breakers.
14. They view waiting as an opportunity to become more patient.
Waiting for something for a long time is annoying. You might want to vent to someone about how much you hate the wait, but ask yourself if it’s worth their time. Classy people try to view waiting as an opportunity to practice patience, which is a valuable skill you’ll need throughout your life.
15. They brush off rude people.
A stray rude comment might ruin your entire day if you give it too much of your time. Refined people know that everyone’s going through something. They don’t give weight to rude words, especially if they know the words aren’t remotely truthful.
16. They support every aspect of themselves.
It’s tempting to complain about your perceived flaws or weaknesses, but that doesn’t really do any good. Sophisticated people recognize their flaws and ask how they can invest in themselves to continue their personal growth. Remember, you’re the only one with the power to help yourself change or accept your whole self.
17. They plan around the rising cost of goods.
Instead of griping about how things are getting more expensive, classy people take preemptive action to plan for those costs. They maintain a budget and make lifestyle adjustments so they have less financial stress. The cost of consumer goods rose over 20% between 2020 and 2024, so it’s not like paying more for things is a new financial challenge.
18. They confidently embrace or turn down leadership opportunities.
Classy people know if they’d like to try leadership opportunities. When those roles present themselves, you’ll either embrace a leadership position as a growth opportunity or decline it because you know your skills can help elsewhere. The key is knowing yourself well enough to understand what fuels your greatest passions. Otherwise, you might only complain about never knowing how to handle these opportunities when they come your way.
