Not everyone is an open book, but with most guys, it’s obvious when they’re happy in their marriage. They will smile, be affectionate in public, want to take you out and treat you, and show you off to their friends. When they’re happy, they’re proud, and it’s evident in everything they do. So, what are the personality traits of a guy who isn’t satisfied with his marriage? Let’s find out.
1. He’s always on his phone.
Most of us spend more time on our devices than we should. However, if your husband seems to spend all of his spare time scrolling, this might be a sign that he’s unhappy. He’s resorting to this because it’s a distraction from tuning in to his relationship.
2. He isn’t affectionate anymore.
When you first met your husband, he found it hard to keep his hands off you. This is one of the many ways he showed how happy he was with you. Lately, though, you’ve found that he’s not as expressive as he used to be, and you have to ask him for a kiss or a hug.
3. He spends less and less time with you.
It’s hard to juggle work, home, and social life in a marriage, especially if you have kids. As time passes, both parties must be intentional about coming together and being with one another. Perhaps you feel that you’re putting in the effort to make time in your busy schedule for this, and your husband isn’t. Either way, it doesn’t feel nice.
4. His body language gives him away.
Again, some people are better at hiding their emotions than others, but most people’s physical actions give them away. How does your husband look when you’re together? Does he stand tall with a contented look on his face, or is he slouched and sullen?
5. He puts other people before you.
Family dynamics are difficult to navigate when you get married, especially if you don’t get along with your in-laws. Despite this, you have always made a point of supporting your husband by spending time with his friends and family. Lately, though, you feel like he’s prioritizing other people in his life over you.
6. You’ve heard bad things through the grapevine.
Within family circles, word gets around when someone is unhappy. Your husband may have confided in one of his family members, and now the rumor mill is turning. You can’t be sure it’s true, but you’ve heard whispers that he’s not satisfied with your current dynamic, and you feel you need to confront him about it.
7. His moods are inconsistent.
Things tend to remain constant when you get into the swing of life with your spouse. Even if you go through a challenging season, your shared outlook on life typically stays the same, and you tackle the issues as a team. Perhaps you’ve found that your husband’s moods are all over the place lately.
8. His lifestyle is slowly changing.
A healthy marriage means that both parties have interests separate from their spouse that they are free to indulge in. However, certain things need to sync up. You’ve always known your husband to have a specific lifestyle, and now, for some reason, this seems to be changing. You don’t even recognize the man you’ve married sometimes.
9. He’s always stressed.
When navigating the ups and downs of life in a marriage, stress comes and goes. One minute, you might be dealing with something stressful that you need support in, and the next, it’s your husband. However, you now realize that your husband has been stressed a lot lately, which has remained relatively consistent.
10. He avoids having meaningful conversations.
No matter how healthy a marriage is, there will be times when you must sit down with your spouse and have a tough conversation. These conversations might not be something to look forward to, but they’re essential. Your husband, however, prefers to dodge these subjects and opportunities to communicate, something he never used to do.
11. His family seems to have it out for you.
Again, it’s not uncommon to have issues with your in-laws. Family dynamics are challenging at best, and they can either get better or worse the longer you’re married. While you’ve had your moments with his side of the family, it feels like lately, they’ve been particularly cold.
12. He no longer puts the effort in with your family.
If you’re looking for personality traits that indicate your husband isn’t happy in your marriage anymore, one could be that he no longer has time for your nearest and dearest. He used to put the time in because he knew how important this was to you. Now, he tends to avoid opportunities to spend time with them.
13. He relies on you less and less.
In a marriage, both parties need things from the other. These include love, support, understanding, empathy, and respect. Without these foundational things, a marriage can’t function. You’ve found that your husband has gradually stopped coming to you for these basic needs.
14. He doesn’t try to make you happy.
You’ve always admired your husband’s willingness to make sure you’re happy. Whether the situation was big or small, he made it his priority. Now, he doesn’t seem to care as much about your level of happiness.
15. He no longer confides in you.
Women are typically better at communicating than men, but both parties need to be open about this if they want to maintain a good marriage. You’ve found that he isn’t sharing his thoughts and feelings with you like he used to.
16. You can’t remember the last time he told you he loves you.
While it doesn’t have to be said all the time, it’s essential in a marriage to remind your spouse frequently that you love and care about them. You may think it is obvious, but verbalizing it can benefit both parties. Now that you think about it, you can’t remember the last time your husband said, “I love you.”
17. You’re no longer intimate.
In addition to not being affectionate with you anymore, you’re finding that your husband is reluctant to be intimate with you. When you bring it up, he avoids the topic and claims he’s too tired when you go to bed together.
18. He’s let himself go.
When a husband is happy, he takes pride in his marriage—and his appearance. He wants his physical appearance to reflect his marital bliss and look good for his wife. Your husband used to be proud of how he looked, but lately, it feels like he’s given up.
19. He’s hypercritical of you.
Mutual respect is essential in a good marriage, and while it’s okay to make mistakes, it’s not okay to violate this consistently by criticizing everything your spouse does. If your husband isn’t happy, he might project this onto you by questioning and condemning your actions.
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