When you lose someone from your life that you still care about, it cuts deep. You’re missing them badly, but you don’t want to be alone in that — you want them to feel that way too. Here’s how to make someone miss you like crazy and wish you were back in their life (even if you know you’re better off now).
1. Completely cut off contact with them.
It’s not about being mean, it’s about giving both of you the space you need to heal and move on. This means no texting, no calls, no social media stalking. When you remove yourself from their life, they’ll start noticing your absence. They’ll start thinking about you and wondering what you’re up to. It’s human nature – we don’t value what we have until it’s gone. So, make yourself scarce, and let silence do the talking.
2. Become a better version of yourself, as corny as that sounds.
This one’s all about you. Use this time to work on yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Hit the gym, take up a new hobby, learn a new language, read those books you’ve been postponing. The goal here is not only to make your ex miss you but also to become a better version of yourself. When you improve yourself, you become more attractive. And guess what? Your ex will notice that. They’ll start missing the new and improved you.
3. Keep those social media accounts looking hot.
Social media is a double-edged sword. On one side, you may be tempted to stalk the person and see what they’re up to. Resist that urge. On the other side, it’s a platform where you can show how well you’re doing. Post about your achievements, your adventures, and your happy moments. But remember, keep it authentic. No fake smiles or forced fun. Genuine happiness shines through, and that’s what will make your ex miss you.
4. Reconnect with the friends who knew you back when.
Remember those friends you didn’t see much of when you were in a relationship? It’s time to reconnect. Organize a meetup, go out for drinks, catch up on old times. Show that you’re not wallowing in self-pity; instead, you’re out there, living your life, enjoying your time with friends. Seeing you having a great time without them can trigger feelings of nostalgia and make your ex miss you.
5. Don’t jump into a new relationship even if you’re lonely.
Rebounding is tempting. It’s a quick fix for the hurt you’re feeling. But it’s not the answer. Rushing into a new relationship will not only hurt you but also the other person involved. Your ex might see it as a desperate move to get over them, which doesn’t exactly scream ‘miss me’. So, take your time. Heal, grow, and when you’re ready, love will come around again.
6. Embrace your freedom and independence.
Confidence is attractive, and independence is admirable. Show your ex that you’re not just surviving the breakup, but thriving. This doesn’t mean putting on a brave face or pretending to be fine. It means genuinely working on building your self-esteem and embracing your independence. It can make your ex question their decision to let you go.
7. Respect their space.
Just as you need your space, so do they. Don’t show up at their favorite spots, don’t hang out with their friends, don’t invade their personal space. It’s not cool, and it screams desperation. Instead, give them the room to breathe, to miss you. Let them come to terms with your absence on their own.
8. Avoid trash talking them even if they deserve it.
Badmouthing your ex may seem like a good idea, but it’s not. Not only does it make you look bitter, but it also shows that you’re still hung up on them. So, keep those negative thoughts and words to yourself. If asked about your ex, speak kindly or don’t speak at all. Positivity attracts, negativity repels.
9. Rediscover the old you.
Remember who you were before the relationship? It’s time to rediscover that person. Reconnect with your interests, your passions, your dreams. Be your authentic self, the one your ex fell in love with. Seeing you embrace your individuality can remind them of what they’re missing.
10. Stay busy.
Fill your time with productive and enjoyable activities. Take on a new project at work, volunteer at a local charity, take up a hobby, travel. Show your ex that you have a life beyond them. That you’re not just sitting at home, missing them. You’re out there, living your life, and having a good time.
11. Don’t play mind games.
There’s a temptation to play games to make your ex miss you. Resist it. Don’t post sad quotes, don’t flirt with others just to make them jealous. Be honest, be straightforward. Playing games can backfire and end up pushing them further away.
12. Be consistent in everything you say and do.
Being consistent means being reliable, and if there’s one thing that people miss, it’s reliability. If you say you’re going to do something, make sure you do it. If you’ve promised to be somewhere, be there. Show that you’re a person of your word, someone who stays true to their commitments even after a breakup. It can make them miss having someone they could always count on, someone like you.
13. Be nice to them.
No matter how much hurt there is between you two, a little kindness can go a long way. This doesn’t mean you should be overly friendly or step over your boundaries. It means showing basic human decency. If it’s their birthday, send a simple birthday wish. If they’ve achieved something, congratulate them. These small acts of kindness can remind them of the good times you shared, the love that once was. It can make them miss your good heart, your compassion, your warmth.
14. Keep things light and upbeat when you do chat.
No need to delve into the past or bring up old arguments. Instead, focus on the present and the future. Discuss your new fitness regime, talk about the book you’re reading, or the new restaurant you discovered. Let them see your positivity and resilience. This might make them miss the good times you shared. It can also remind them of what a fun and interesting person you are — traits they might not find easily in others.
15. Give them some time.
You can’t rush feelings, you can’t force someone to miss you. It doesn’t work like that. Feelings take time to develop, and the same goes for the feeling of missing someone. So, be patient. Let them feel your absence, let them remember the good times, let them come to terms with their feelings. But while you’re giving them time, don’t forget to give yourself time too. Time to heal, time to grow, time to move on. Because at the end of the day, your well-being is what matters the most. And who knows? Maybe while you’re busy becoming the best version of yourself, they’ll start missing the amazing person they let go of.
