If you’ve ever wondered how some women manage to keep their sense of self while building a strong connection with their partner, you’re in for a treat. Here are some specific things independent women do differently in relationships, and trust me, it’s not about being cold or distant—it’s about being authentically, unapologetically themselves.
1. They don’t lose their identity
Independent women don’t morph into “we” the moment they enter a relationship. They keep their own interests, friends, and goals. It’s not that they don’t value their partnership; they just know that “me” + “you” = a stronger “we”. Think of it like a great cocktail—each ingredient does its own thing while also creating something great together.
2. They respect and demand respect
Respect isn’t just something they hope for, it’s a non-negotiable in all of their relationships. They give it freely and expect it in return. They know that the only way to survive a relationship is to make sure it’s a two-way street of mutual appreciation and respect.
3. They’re not afraid of conflict
Healthy disagreements don’t scare independent women. They see conflicts as opportunities for understanding and growth, not as big bombs threatening to ruin the relationship. They tackle issues head-on, looking for solutions rather than sweeping things under the rug. They want to find resolutions, not blame their partner.
4. They’re great communicators
According to Marriage.com, these women don’t expect their partners to be mind readers. They express their needs, wants, and feelings clearly and directly. After all, they have the user manual on themselves, so why not share it with the person who matters most? No passive-aggressive hints or silent treatments here—just open, honest communication.
5. They stay financially independent
Whether it’s keeping separate bank accounts or contributing equally to shared expenses, independent women take charge of their finances. According to Forbes, this is one of the most vital things for women to do in a relationship. They’re not looking for a sugar daddy or a walking ATM. Instead, they view financial independence as another form of self-reliance. Besides, they like the feeling of knowing that no matter what happens, they’ll always land on their feet.
6. They’re all about alone time
Independent women understand the value of solitude. They don’t need to be joined at the hip with their partner 24/7. They know that some time apart can actually bring them closer together. Think of it like you’d about a really good wine—you have to let it breathe and a little space can enhance the overall experience.
7. They pursue their passions relentlessly
Getting into a relationship doesn’t mean putting their dreams on hold. Independent women continue to chase their goals, whether it’s climbing the career ladder or mastering the art of needlepointing. Their partner is along for the ride as their biggest fan, not a roadblock that damps their spirit.
8. They take responsibility for their own happiness
These women know that their happiness is their own responsibility, not their partner’s job. They don’t rely on their significant other to be their sole source of joy or fulfillment. They can do that all by themselves. That’s not to say their partner doesn’t make them happy, they do—it’s just that they’re driving and their partner is the passenger.
9. They don’t settle
Independent women know their worth and won’t settle for less than they deserve. This doesn’t mean they expect perfection, but they do look for partners who align with their values and aspirations. It’s like shopping for a great pair of shoes—they won’t pinch their toes into something that doesn’t fit just because it looks good on the surface.
10. They’re not afraid to say ‘no’
Whether it’s to a date night when they need alone time or to a request they’re not comfortable with, independent women aren’t afraid to say ‘no’. They know that honest refusals are better than reluctant yeses. They can filter out what doesn’t serve them or the relationship and that’s amazing.
11. They keep their friends
Independent women nurture their friendships and social connections outside of their romantic partnership. They know that they need more than just their S.O. to confide in and give them energy. It’s like having a rich, varied diet for their social and emotional needs—their partner is an essential nutrient, but not the entire food pyramid.
12. They stay decisive
Independent women continue to make choices about their lives, big and small. They value their partner’s input but don’t become paralyzed without it. After all, they’re the CEO of their life. Sure, they consult their partner (a trusted advisor), but ultimately they make their own calls.
13. They celebrate their partner’s independence too
Just as they value their own independence, these women appreciate and encourage their partner’s autonomy. They don’t get jealous when their significant other pursues their own interests or spends time with friends. They know that you need the freedom to do your own thing sometimes. Besides, it makes being together all the more fun.
14. They don’t forget about self-care
Independent women prioritize their physical, mental, and emotional well-being, even when in a relationship. They know they can’t pour from an empty cup. Because after all, if they’re not in tip-top shape, how can they be expected to bring their best self to the relationship?
15. They love hard
When independent women love, they do it with their whole hearts. Their love isn’t the fear of being alone disguised as love, it’s a genuine deliberate choice to share their life with someone amazing.
