Men can hone many different traits to help them succeed, whether in their personal relationships or in their careers, and charisma definitely tops the list. While this quality is usually associated with extroverted men, there’s no reason all men can’t develop it — and reap its rewards. Here are some of the simple but effective concrete habits associated with highly charismatic men that you can begin to adopt in your own life.
1. They work on developing confidence.
Charismatic men aren’t arrogant, but they do back themselves and know what they have to offer the world. Studies show that confidence is such a convincing characteristic that people are almost instantly willing to trust anyone who has it. While you might think that someone’s past or experience is essential when establishing trust, confidence in charismatic men typically trumps this for people willing to trust them.
2. They listen to what other people have to say.
Charismatic men are great at making people, especially women, feel valued and appreciated. This is one of the reasons why people gravitate towards them. These men have learned to listen to others and be attentive, and this includes maintaining good eye contact, asking questions, and smiling. This shows the other person they’re paying attention and are engaged with what they’re talking about.
3. They’re passionate about life.
Charismatic men love the lives they’ve created for themselves. They are passionate not only about their hobbies and interests but also about life in general, which shows. Studies show that passionate emotions, whether positive or negative, are highly contagious and impact other people. If you spend enough time around a passionate and charismatic man, you will also start feeling passionate about life.
4. They’re genuinely friendly and approachable.
Rarely will you find a charismatic man who seems standoffish or rude. Instead, he’ll go out of his way to be welcoming, open, and friendly with anyone he meets. After all, most people want to spend time around someone who’s kind and easy to talk to as opposed to someone who seems aloof or closed-off. The ease with which they connect with everyone they meet makes charismatic men magnets for social bonds.
5. They have a lack of self-importance.
It might be easy to think of a charismatic man as someone who thinks a little too highly of himself, but the opposite is often true. They’re often easy to relate to and are much more interested in getting to know you than monopolizing conversations and always talking about themselves. That’s not to say that they’re not willing to share about their own lives — they are! — but they also want to learn about the people they meet and make sure they feel heard and seen.
6. They have clear visions and goals.
Charismatic men often look to the future and are excited about their potential. Not only are they confident about what’s ahead, but they usually have ambitious goals that they believe they can achieve. They’re also willing to put the work in to make them a reality. They’re not shy about the lofty goals they’ve set for themselves, and their infectious self-belief keeps them inspired, as well as inspiring everyone around them.
7. Their interest in other people is genuine.
Many men (and people in general) present themselves as authentic and sincere, only for the mask to slip once you get to know them, revealing a not-so-nice person underneath. Charismatic men recognize the value in being truly invested in connecting with others, whether it’s professional networking, meeting new friends, or on the dating scene. The value they get from finding common ground with all kinds of people is immeasurable, and they never take it for granted.
8. They’re a little bit mysterious.
That’s not to say that they’re evasive or secretive, but charismatic men know that in a world where every little detail of people’s lives is available for public consumption thanks to social media and the internet, there’s something alluring about leaving some stuff to the imagination — at least for a little while.
9. They provide a safe space for others to open up.
Charismatic men know that the more of a genuine rapport you build with other people, the more insight and empathy you’ll gain and the more you’ll learn about yourself. They encourage those around them to disclose things about themselves and ask interesting and personal questions, making it clear that they’re not here to judge or give unsolicited advice. It’s not about being nosy — it helps us learn things we might not have realized about ourselves.
10. They’re generous with their time and resources.
Have you ever met a charismatic man who isn’t ready and willing to drop everything to help someone in need? Not only that, but he’s likely happy to share his money (if he has it) and other resources to make sure others are comfortable and taken care of. Charismatic men tend to be altruistic, seeing the benefit of working for the greater good than just working for their own advancement.
11. They look for the good in people.
We all have positive and negative traits that impact those around us. Charismatic men are kings of giving the benefit of the doubt and focusing on the good rather than pointing out people’s flaws and imperfections. They don’t fool themselves into thinking the people around them are perfect, but they know better than to define someone by their negative traits.
12. They admit when they’ve made a mistake.
“Sorry” truly seems to be the hardest word for many, but not for charismatic men. When they mess up or hurt someone’s feelings, even unintentionally, they own up to it and apologize genuinely. They’re not ashamed to admit when they’ve fallen short. They understand that making mistakes is all part of the process and are willing to learn from their mistakes.
13. They’re your biggest cheerleader by default.
Of course, charismatic men want to be successful in life, but they also want those around them to be successful. This is why if you are close to a charismatic man, chances are that he is your biggest cheerleader. He’s always encouraging you and supporting you in your aspirations. Not only that, but he fully believes you’ll achieve them!
14. They love giving plenty of genuine compliments.
Sometimes, receiving a compliment from a man is uncomfortable or too forward. Charismatic men know how to find the perfect balance when handing out compliments, focusing on non-physical qualities people have or the effort they’ve put into certain projects. They know that a small pat on the back can change a person’s day, and they love nothing more than seeing the smile on people’s faces when they throw a few words of genuine praise their way.
15. They keep cool, calm, and collected.
Life often throws curveballs, and how we react to them says a lot about our character. Charismatic men know how to maintain their calm and not blow up in an unexpected situation. They know that life is unpredictable and they’re bigger than what is happening around them.
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